The green-eyed monster of jealousy is a strange bedfellow. It is malice towards a friend, family member or foe who a person believes enjoys an advantage. The interesting thing about jealousy is that one perceives another enjoys an advantage over him; and because of that perception, he develops ill feelings towards that person.
We’ve all experienced jealousy to some degree. Maybe we’ve seen a rival accomplish something we want to accomplish, and a twinge of jealousy plagues us. Maybe we’ve seen someone close to us advance, and jealousy is spewed out in our conversations. Maybe we think someone has a quality we don’t possess, and the green-eyed monster skews our vision. Maybe our object of affection compliments someone else, and jealousy rears its ugly head. Regardless the situation, jealousy causes discomfort, even if only momentarily.
The sad thing about jealousy is if it isn’t dealt with properly, it seeps into relationships and corrodes them. The destruction may not be noticed immediately, but jealousy slowly breaks down the necessary fibers needed to maintain healthy relationships, leaving brokenness that could have been avoided.
If you have allowed jealousy to creep into your life, there are some things you can do. First, admit that you are jealous. Admitting the problem is the first step to changing it. Next, ask yourself why you are jealous. Many times, a person feels jealous because he feels he is lacking in an area. If it’s an area you can do something about, change it. If not, change your perception about that area. Then find something positive about that person. Finding the positive in others has a way of nipping jealousy in the bud.
If you identify jealousy in your life, deal with it immediately. You have two options in this matter. Deal with jealousy, or jealousy will deal with you.
Have a great day!