Some people fail to move forward because of things in their pasts. They tell themselves they came from the wrong side of the tracks, or they were born in dysfunctional families. They tally the things they’ve done wrong, and the lists are so long, they feel they would never move past them. They think of those who wronged them and hold on to resentments. They wallow in things they cannot change, and as a result, they forfeit present and future happiness.
Remembering some things in the past may not be bad; it may keep a person from making the same mistakes. However, lingering in the past, and using it as a defense not to move forward is inexcusable and unacceptable.
No, you didn’t choose to be born in that family. You didn’t have control over how they treated you. You made mistakes that you cannot change. So what? You’re human. And if everyone quit because of things he’s done in his past, no one would be doing anything.
I’m not saying you don’t have legitimate reasons to feel sorrow about your past, but there comes a time to shake off those old, destructive behaviors, polish yourself up, and move on with your life. No matter how hard you try, you can’t change the past. You can moan about it, cry about it, wallow in it or tell others about it, but these things won’t change what has happened.
Make a decision that you will no longer allow your past to hurt you. If you need assistance to move forward, go get it. If you can do it on your own, get started. Refuse to waste another minute on things you cannot change, and get busy changing the things you can.