Monthly Archives: March 2015

Just Asking… (Are you aware that each level of advancement brings new challenges?)

Most individuals desire promotion or advancement. They work hard, and they look to move up the ladder in whatever endeavor they are undertaking. However, with each level of advancement comes new challenges. Things that were commonplace at lower levels may not be as prevalent when one reaches the next level. Instead of being able to perform tasks on autopilot as he did when he was familiar with an area, a person may have to apply himself diligently whenever he moves upward, especially in the beginning. In his new role or status, there are things for him to learn and areas for him to conquer.

 

Interestingly, those familiar with that person at a lower level may not be able to relate to him in his new level. They may say that he’s changed, and he no longer has things in common with them. His advancement may put a strain on some of his relationships, at times, causing some of them to dissolve.

 

Additionally, the way he dealt with things at a lower level may no longer be appropriate at his new level. He may have to learn new coping skills in order to be successful. Not only that, he may have to acquire more education in order to flourish. He may run into problems that he hadn’t faced before, and he may have to learn different ways to handle them. He may also be exposed to a diverse group of individuals, those who operate differently than those in his former circle.

 

All of these experiences can be positive if the person approaches them with the right attitude. They can stretch the individual in ways that the individual never knew was possible. He can learn and grow immensely.

 

So remember, advancement is good, but it also provides challenges. Don’t cave in and quit when they come, know that it is part of the process, a process that can strengthen if only allowed.

Books by Levon

 

Just Asking… (Do you know the perfect person for you may not be perfect?)

Many people are looking for love. When you ask them what they are looking for, they say they are looking for the total package. When they are questioned further about their desires, they roll off a litany of qualities that they say are “must haves.” Amazingly, they are looking for the perfect person, someone without shortcomings, weaknesses or failures. When you peruse their standards, they are so high that no human being could possibly live up to them.

 

Many individuals have found someone they are compatible with, but because that person had a shortcoming, that person scratched the “less than perfect one” off the list. There is nothing wrong with high standards, but a person must realize that no one living on this earth is perfect. Each person has an issue, shortcoming or frailty; some have more than others, and some have them to a larger degree than others.

 

A person can save himself a lot of frustration by realizing that each person comes with some kind of baggage. Once that is established, he can look for someone who possesses the majority of the qualities he desires. Once he finds a shortcoming, which he will find if he looks long enough, he must decide whether that shortcoming is a deal breaker. For example, if a person is addicted to drugs, that may be a deal breaker. If he won’t keep a job, that may be a deal breaker. If he is abusive, that may be a deal breaker. However, if that person is prone to lateness, that may be something a person can work with. If the potential mate has a tendency to worry, the person has to decide if that’s something he can deal with in a relationship. Either way, a person must evaluate whether the other individual’s weakness is something that he can accept even if he doesn’t agree with it.

 

Most happily married couples admit that their partners have weaknesses, and if they are honest, they admit that they have them too. So for those looking for the perfect person, know that that person may not be “perfect,” but he or she can be perfect for you. Don’t be one of those people who overlooked a good thing because that good thing came adorned with a few flaws.

Books by Levon

 

 

Just Asking… (When is the last time you did something good for someone less fortunate than you are?)

Sometimes a person is so consumed with his life that he forgets the needs of others; however, if he looks around, he can easily spot a need. Someone may be a single parent and need his assistance in an area. Someone may be elderly and need a home repair. Someone may be depressed and need a kind word. Another person may need a listening ear. Someone may need his expertise in an area. Someone may be down to his last dollar, and that person may have the means to pay a bill or buy  grocery for the one in need. The list is endless because needs are ever present.

 

At times, the person may feel he has enough on his plate, and he doesn’t have the energy to look at, much less reach out to someone else. Then again, he may feel that no one assists him with his problems so he will not go the distance to help anyone else. He may feel discouraged himself and feels someone needs to follow this principle for him, and then maybe, he’ll do the same for someone else. But that attitude is not the one to take. When a person is experiencing these feelings, that is the best time for him to reach out to someone else. That is the best time for him to look beyond his situation and touch the situation of another. Not only is doing something good for another person refreshing for the receiver, it is also refreshing for the one who dispenses good deeds. For a moment, it allows the person to experience empathy for another; it allows him to look beyond himself, it allows him to be the answer to someone’s problems.

 

So be that “Good Samaritan” in someone’s life today. Dispense good and bask in the thought that you brought a speck of light into someone’s world. You never know, it may prompt him to do the same for someone else.

Book by Levon

 

Just Asking… (Do you realize that once a healthy mind is expanded, it is difficult, if not impossible, for it to return to its original state?)

A person has the ability to stretch and expand his thinking. He can choose to remain dormant, or he can devour as much material as he can get his hands on. Reading and exploring will expand the mind, and amazingly, the mind will absorb as much information as an individual is willing to feed it. It seems that the mind is thirsty for knowledge, and it is up to the individual to quench that thirst.

 

Once the mind has been exposed to new experiences and information, it hungers for more. These things take the individual to new levels, and many times stir his creative juices. He begins to see beyond his current situation and realizes there is more than he has previously experienced.

 

Knowing this, one must take extreme caution of what he feeds his mind. Whatever buffet of knowledge a person feeds himself has a tendency to grow. If he consumes information of little value, that information will take root. Over time, it will produce what has been planted. If he wants to grow in a healthier direction, he must consume knowledge that will promote such growth.

 

Remember, you are responsible for expanding and stretching your mind. Take the challenge and feed your mind something positive, something invigorating, something challenging. Once you do, you will never be the same.

Books by Levon

Just Asking… (Why do people lie?)

Lying has become commonplace in our society. When someone lies, he tells an untruth, hoping to defraud a person or persons in some way. Not only that, a person can lie by omission. He may leave out important information, thereby masking the truth. Some people believe that lying is not bad, especially if it helps advance a cause. They justify that a “little white lie” is acceptable if the situation calls for it. They feel that if they don’t get caught, no harm is done.

 

However, have you ever thought about why a person lies? A person may lie to make himself look better in the eyes of others. He may want to seem important, and because he feels his status doesn’t measure up to what is expected (by him or others), he exaggerates the truth. A person may lie because he doesn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Instead of being honest about an issue, he glosses over the truth and says what he thinks another wants to hear. A person may lie to keep out of trouble. He knows that he has done something wrong, and when confronted with the situation, he denies it vehemently. Then again, a person may lie because he has formed a habit of lying. He has lied so much that it is difficult for him to recognize the truth.

 

Have you ever lied? If you have, examine the reasons for your lies. Did you want to make yourself feel more important? Did you want to spare someone’s feelings? Did you want to avoid getting into trouble? Do you lie because you have formed a habit of lying?

 

Regardless the reasons for lying, if the truth is discovered, trust is usually broken. So think about that next lie before you tell it. Maybe the truth will work better in the end. Moreover, if you are doing something you have to lie about, maybe, just maybe, you should change what you’re doing.

Books by Levon

Just Asking… (How do you handle problems?)

At some point in time, each person will encounter problems. Life presents each individual with challenges, some to a greater degree than others. Some have to deal with health issues. Some have to deal with family issues. Some are forced to deal with their finances. Some have emotional problems. Some have to deal with addictions, while others have to deal with an array of issues. Regardless the form, the uncertainty is not in whether or not a person will encounter problems, it’s in how that person handles his problems.

 

Some people choose to ignore their problems, hoping that sticking their heads in the sand will make their problems go away. When people handle their problems this way, their problems are magnified. Instead of dealing with them while they are smaller challenges, they allow them to grow to the point that they have to do something about them. Others tell everyone they know about their problems. They rehearse them repeatedly, yet they never do anything to correct their issues. Then there are those who face their problems head on. They may not know exactly what to do, but they refuse to sit and feel sorry for themselves. They are bold enough to get counsel if needed. They take action, regardless how small, in order to make changes. If they are dealing with issues they cannot change, they change their perspectives about their situations. Regardless, they refuse to allow their problems to linger without fighting to find solutions.

 

Examine your history of problems. How have you handled them? Have you given up without a fight? Did you tell everyone who would listen about your problems, yet you refused to take action steps to rectify them? Did you stick you head in the sand, hoping your problems would go away? Or did you face your problems head on, doing whatever you could to find solutions?

 

Know that you may not have power over the problems that enter your life, but you do have control over how you deal with them. If you’ve been handling them incorrectly, change courses and try something more constructive.

Books by Levon

Just Asking… (What have you done to take care of your body today?)

Most of us know the things we need to do to take care of our bodies. We’ve heard these things many times, and while we’re hearing them, most of us agree wholeheartedly. We watch the commercials and while we’re eating our snacks and surfing the channels with the remote control, we say that we’re going to do better. We look at infomercials and lust after the tone bodies, making pledges that we’re going to get off the couch one day. We listen to the medical experts, and we nod our heads in agreement, all while pouring extra salt on our food. We make resolutions, and in the beginning, we are gung ho, but after a few weeks pass, we’ve slipped back into our regular routines.

 

Sometimes, we need to take one day at a time. Instead of saying that we’re going to work out for the next ninety days, sometimes we need to make a commitment to do one thing for our bodies today.

 

Do you need to drink more water? Tell yourself that you are going to drink three glasses of water before you go to bed. This is simple enough, and it removes the pressure to perform long-term. Do you need to reduce your salt intake? Agree not to put salt on your food for one meal. Start there, and on another day, you can up the ante. Do you need to start exercising? Agree to exercise thirty minutes today. You can complete this task in ten or fifteen-minute increments, but at least you have a plan. Are you drinking too many caffeinated drinks? Agree to reduce your intake by one or two drinks today. Do you need to stop smoking? Decrease your consumption by one or two cigarettes today.

 

There are many things we can do to take care of our bodies. We must remember that we only have one each, and when that one is gone, it is gone. So start small and focus on today only. If you get up and do something small to take care of yourself each day, when you look back in a month’s time, you will be amazed at your progress.

Books by Levon