Many people are looking for love. When you ask them what they are looking for, they say they are looking for the total package. When they are questioned further about their desires, they roll off a litany of qualities that they say are “must haves.” Amazingly, they are looking for the perfect person, someone without shortcomings, weaknesses or failures. When you peruse their standards, they are so high that no human being could possibly live up to them.
Many individuals have found someone they are compatible with, but because that person had a shortcoming, that person scratched the “less than perfect one” off the list. There is nothing wrong with high standards, but a person must realize that no one living on this earth is perfect. Each person has an issue, shortcoming or frailty; some have more than others, and some have them to a larger degree than others.
A person can save himself a lot of frustration by realizing that each person comes with some kind of baggage. Once that is established, he can look for someone who possesses the majority of the qualities he desires. Once he finds a shortcoming, which he will find if he looks long enough, he must decide whether that shortcoming is a deal breaker. For example, if a person is addicted to drugs, that may be a deal breaker. If he won’t keep a job, that may be a deal breaker. If he is abusive, that may be a deal breaker. However, if that person is prone to lateness, that may be something a person can work with. If the potential mate has a tendency to worry, the person has to decide if that’s something he can deal with in a relationship. Either way, a person must evaluate whether the other individual’s weakness is something that he can accept even if he doesn’t agree with it.
Most happily married couples admit that their partners have weaknesses, and if they are honest, they admit that they have them too. So for those looking for the perfect person, know that that person may not be “perfect,” but he or she can be perfect for you. Don’t be one of those people who overlooked a good thing because that good thing came adorned with a few flaws.