Have you ever known someone who is in a miserable situation, but he will not do anything to change it? That person says he wants to change. He cries about his situation, complains about his situation and even dreams that one day he will be in a better situation. He may even map out plans, hoping for a better day. However, if one observes that person five years later, he is five years older, singing the same old tune and caressing the same old situation.
After a while, that person’s complaints and tears become redundant. Others wonder what is wrong with him. They even question his desire for change. On the surface, it may appear that he’s lazy and uncommitted, but if one looks closer, the observer may see a force that paralyzes him. That force is fear.
Even though it cannot be seen in and of itself, fear is powerful. It is an emotion provoked by the threat of pain, harm, evil, hurt, peril, etc. The threat may be real, or it may be imagined. Regardless, the person is restrained from moving pass his situation because he fears something bad will happen if he does. He may be uncomfortable where he is, but he fears something worse will happen if he moves. Most of the time, he fears failure. He knows what his present situation feels like, but he is not sure about the unknown; therefore, in his mind he conjures up the worst-case scenario.
The first thing a person must do is evaluate his fear. The right kind of fear prepares one to fight or flee. It reveals real danger, something that will really harm a person. For example, if a poisonous snake is within a person’s perimeter, that fear signifies real danger. In this instance, the body prepares itself to fight or flee. The other form of fear immobilizes. It provides reasons why a person shouldn’t do something. It sets up barriers to keep a person from moving to the next level. One may feel the same intensity as the other type fear, but many times, there is no supporting evidence that comes with the claim. The fear is surrounded by “what ifs.” When someone experiences this kind of fear, he needs to face it, even if he needs to get help to silence his emotions. If he refuses to do so, fear will keep him a prisoner.
That being said, a person needs to do something courageous (even if it’s something small) in the face of fear. If he doesn’t, he will spend the next five years singing the same old tune and caressing the same old situation.
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