Some people do not want to work. They sit back and rely on others to provide for their needs. They manipulate others with their words, always reciting sob stories in order to receive handouts. They look for ways to beat the system, and when they are offered honest work, they have many excuses why they can’t perform what’s offered. Oftentimes, they tell others they will work when they get their dream job, a job they have conjured up in their minds, but they haven’t put any effort into working towards that position. They know how to get over on others, and they use their efforts to do just that.
Sadly, a person like this knows how to identify enablers. He knows how to pull on the heart strings of those who want to see him do better. He knows how to bamboozle the caring heart out of his money and goods; he knows how to make his situation seem desperate, singing the perfect song to get others to act on his behalf. He has mastered the skill of playacting, and he will go as far as the enabler allows.
Many times this scenario may be played out in parents taking care of healthy, adult children who won’t work. Other times, it can be seen in a hard-working woman taking care of a lazy man. It may be seen in a woman running from man to man, staying with each man as long as he foots the bill. The possibilities are endless. Regardless the situation, the motive is the same. An able-bodied person refuses to work, and he preys on others for support.
Are you supporting someone who refuses to work? If you are, you may need to cut the apron strings. Insist that this person learns to stand on his own two feet, and if he refuses, allow him to experience the consequences of his actions. Discomfort has a way of waking this type person up. Once his stomach starts to growl, and his lights are turned off, work starts to look like a viable option to him.