If a person lives long enough, he will experience some type of hurt or pain. He may wonder why a particular thing has come upon him, but regardless the reason, he must decide how he will respond to the uncomfortable situation. As he examines the situation, he may find that he did something to cause the pain, or he may discover that what has happened was beyond his control.
Hurts and pains come in many forms. A person may have experienced a miscarriage, divorce, physical illness, rebellious teen, financial disaster, unanswered prayer, etc. Nevertheless, he must understand that hurts and pains are a part of life, and he can use the situation as an opportunity to become better or bitter.
Many people who have experienced hurts or pains in specific areas become champions for their causes. Mothers who have had children killed by drunk drivers rally together to bring awareness to the situation. Those who have suffered from addictions form groups to offer help and support to others who suffer from the same disease. Some who have experienced divorce, rally at support meetings to assist others who are going through the process. Some who have disappointments in other areas serve as sounding boards for those who are still suffering.
It is very difficult when someone is in the midst of a trying situation. If you are fortunate enough to have made it through a bad situation, or if you have found a way to cope with a bad situation while in the mist of it, why not share your experiences with others who are still groping for answers? You never know, your wisdom in that particular area may be just the thing to soothe the hurts and pains of one going through a difficult time.
In this day and age, we have the opportunity to feed our minds an assortment of information. Not only that, we can feed our minds information through many outlets, many times with very little effort. When we select certain shows to watch, we are feeding our minds. When we read certain books, we are feeding our minds. When we listen to different people talk, we are feeding our minds. When we listen to various songs, we are feeding our minds. We feed our minds daily, and if we refuse to guard what we feed our minds, our minds will consume anything.
The interesting thing about our minds’ appetites is that they will crave the types of information that’s familiar. If we continuously feed our minds diets of hate, our minds will gravitate towards those diets. If we feed our minds uplifting information, they will gravitate towards those directions. If we feed our minds immorality, they will gobble that up. If we feed our minds goodwill towards humankind, they will eat that too. If you want to know what people are feeding their minds, watch them closely. After a period of time, what’s in their minds will be acted out in their lives.
That being said, think about what you are feeding your mind. Look around at the evidence. Your life is a good indication of what your mind has consumed. If you don’t like what you see, put your mind on a different diet. It may rebel at first, but you have to show your mind who’s boss. Moreover, don’t look for change overnight. Know that change comes slowly, but if you are persistent, change is continuous. Now get on the healthy mind bandwagon, and feed your mind only what you want manifested in your life.
Do you know a person can have a good idea or good intentions but never follow through with either of them? He may postpone taking an action step because he can’t see the entire picture. He may not move forward because he feels he doesn’t have the support he needs. He may stand still because the task before him seems daunting. He may remain stagnant because excuses appear more comfortable than breaking out of the mold. He may tell himself that he will make a move as soon as his finances are in order, but he’s too financially strapped to do anything now. He may tell himself that one day he will do something about his situation, but today is not convenient.
It’s easier for him to tell himself that he will do on another day what he can do today. It’s easier to surround himself with excuses than to take that first step towards change. He may tell himself that he is not hurting anyone by his lackadaisical attitude, but that is not entirely true. By succumbing to this line of reasoning, he is actually hurting the most important person in his life: himself.
Have you fallen into the trap of this line of thinking? Do you have a mental or written list of things to do, and you haven’t taken your first step? In order to move forward, the step doesn’t have to be a large one, a baby step counts too.
If you’ve guilty of this infraction, throw off the shackles of excuses. Clean that garage today if it’s on the list. Start that exercise program. Sign up for that class you’ve always wanted to take. Send out that resume. Write the first paragraph of that book. Visit that friend. Volunteer at that local charity organization. Whatever it is, don’t put it off any longer. Today is a good day to start.
This may seem like an odd question, but as I talk to people, I realize that many of them don’t respect their talents. When a person respects something, he deems it important. He esteems the thing, and he values it to the upmost. He knows that the thing is valuable, and he does his best to protect or improve it. In his eyes, he sees something of worth, something that he is willing to invest in; however, it’s almost impossible to invest in something that one doesn’t recognize he has.
Considering this important point, it’s easy to see why a person may not value his talents or natural abilities. In order to respect his talents, he must first recognize what his talents are. There are many ways for a person to discover his talents, but he has to be willing to invest time in the process. Once he has discovered what comes naturally to him, what he’s good at or what he enjoys, then he has to decide what he will do with that information. Is he willing to take classes to enhance his talents? Is he willing to invest time in his talents even when it’s inconvenient? Is he willing to seek out others who have excelled in his areas of interest in order to perfect his skills? Will he continue to pursue his talents even if others don’t understand? The list of questions can be humongous, but the answer to these questions will determine the person’s level of respect for his talents.
Think about the talents that you possess. Answer the questions listed above and others like them. Are you respecting your talents, or are you squandering them away with each passing day? Know that they were given to you to use and perfect. Don’t waste them; use them wisely. You never know, someone’s life may be hanging in the balance, waiting for something that only you can provide.
We all have experienced worry to some degree. Some people worry about their health. Some worry about their loved ones. Some worry about their finances, and some worry about other things they think might happen. Regardless the situation, worry never solve problems. When one worries, he torments himself with disturbing thoughts. He experiences mental anguish because he expects something negative to happen. By pondering on unhealthy thoughts, he forfeits his ability to search for solutions.
No matter how you look at it, worry is destructive. It robs a person of peace, and it steals valuable moments. Not only that, it affects various areas of a person’s life. It can affect him physically, causing aches and pains. It can affect him emotionally, stimulating sadness and depression. It can cause him to become spiritually impoverished, moving him to disconnect from his Higher Power; and it definitely affects him mentally, taking up valuable space in his mind.
Are you worrying about an issue? How has worry helped? If it hadn’t assisted you, then maybe you should forsake it and start looking for solutions. Don’t hold on to something that’s weighing you down. Do your best to find options. And remember, no matter how difficult the situation is, worry is a choice. You may not be able to change the situation, but you can always change your thoughts about the situation. So free yourself from worry, and send it packing. Once you do, you open the door for solutions to enter.
It is grand for a person to have goals and dreams and the tenacity to move towards those goals and dreams. It is wonderful when he has established a routine, and he flows within that routine when necessary. It is good to know that he is faithful to his plans, not allowing anyone or anything to move him off his path to success. As noble as this is, life has a way of interrupting a person’s schedule or placing roadblocks on a person’s path to destiny. At times, it has a way of causing one to change his agenda and take another route. It causes one to rethink his position or the way he is doing something. When this happens, what is a person to do?
When a person finds himself in this position, he has several options. He can remain inflexible and push against the barricades of life, finding himself in a “no win” situation. When he does this, all of his efforts are fruitless. If he is frustrated by life’s interruption, he can sit, sulk and refuse to move forward. This route will not cause resistance, but it will not get the person any closer to his goals. Lastly, the person can choose to be flexible. He can see that he may need to rethink things and do something a different way. When he is flexible, he is pliable. He can bend or move without breaking, caving in or quitting. He examines the situation and realizes there are changes he needs to make in order to move forward. He doesn’t get resentful about change because he realizes that change is necessary for growth.
How do you handle situations when life throws you a challenge? How do you react when the way you were doing something no longer works? Are you wise enough to know when to adjust your way of thinking or performing if it is beneficial? Can you be flexible when the situation calls for it? Know that change is inevitable, and you have to have the wisdom to know when flexibility is the viable option. So stop looking at that barricade as a hindrance; see it as an opportunity to reexamine what you are doing. Once you see it differently, you’re more apt to move forward in the pursuit of your goals and dreams.
Have you ever had someone say something to you in the wrong way or offend you in some area and every time you see him, you experience a negative feeling? When you see that person or hear that person’s name, your mood immediately changes, and you can go from happy to upset in an instant. You may have conjured up negative thoughts about this person, and you loathe his presence or you try to avoid him at all costs. Sometimes, you rehearse the offense to others, even going as far as telling them how awful this person is. If you’ve experienced this, then you are dealing with resentment. When we examine the definition of the word, we see that resentment is feeling displeasure or even indignation at something someone has said or done. That person may have wronged you, or you may have perceived that that person wronged you. Regardless of whether he did or not, the feelings are still the same.
It would be appropriate to bask in resentment if it would add value to your life; however, all resentment does is rob you of your peace. It takes up residence in your mind and occupies a space where peace should reside. If it is not dealt with appropriately, it grows. It can infiltrate your sleep and rob you of enjoying your present moment. It does not add; it destroys.
Knowing this, ask yourself one question. Who are you hurting when you harbor resentment? It sounds like the offender (if he really did offend) is moving on while you are stuck as a prisoner of the offense. But don’t despair; there is good news. There is a way to escape this imprisonment. You can forgive the offender and walk out a free person; and if you want to add icing on the cake, do something nice for him. That will really add to your liberty! So throw the shackles off and move pass that resentment. Don’t allow it to rob one more precious moment of your life.