Monthly Archives: July 2015

Just Asking… (Is there anything in your life that moves you to action?)

Many people live their lives sitting on the sidelines complaining about what needs to be done. They are unsatisfied with their world, and they find many opportunities to tell others of their dissatisfaction. These complainers criticize people who are doing the best that they can do, but they offer no solution or alternative to the problem. If they decide to offer solutions, they sit back on the couch immobile, not putting any action steps to their words.

 

As we examine history, we see that some broke out of the mold of complacency and put forth effort to make changes. They may not have had all of the answers at the time of moving forth, but they did what they knew to do at that time. Many made mistakes along the way. Some had to change the way they did things. Some moved beyond comfort zones and stretched themselves to the limit, but they did not sit back, moan and complain; they allowed discomfort to drive them forward.

 

Women did it in the past. Minorities also joined the ranks. Those dissatisfied with policies of their day moved out. Some looking for religious freedom did the same. It is not a new concept. People from all over the world have shown courage to change unjust situations for themselves and humankind.

 

Is there anything in your life that moves you to action? Do you feel so strongly about a situation that you will step out and do something about it, or do you complain and fail to make a difference? No matter how large or small the situation, ask yourself what you can do to make a difference. You may not go down in the history books for your actions, but your actions may change someone else’s life for the better.

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Just Asking… (If the way you lived your life told a story, would you be proud of the storyline?)

Every day, we as humans add a chapter to the story of our lives. The way we live speaks volumes about us as individuals. Sometimes the chapters we write are sweet and innocent. Sometimes there’s drama sprinkled between the pages. Sometimes there are paragraphs of horror splattered throughout the story, including things we would like to forget or keep buried. Sometimes sad events are woven into the theme, and sometimes we leave behind scenes that make us laugh or jump for joy. Our lives consist of an array of events, all telling stories that others read with or without our permission.

 

That being said, take a moment to think about the story you are writing about your life. If you examine your actions, would you say they are kind and warm, or are they selfish and inconsiderate? Do your actions and words motivate and encourage, or do they destroy and tear down? Are you proud of who you are, or would you want to keep a part of yourself hidden because you are ashamed of that part coming to light? Is it a story that you can readily share with others, or would you rather stash it away under lock and key?

 

Regardless the outcome, you are the author of your story. You may not be able to control all of the things that enter your life, but you can choose how you respond to those events. You can fill the pages with love, compassion, kindness, gentleness, patience and the like, or you can compile a story filled with hate, greed, selfishness, rudeness and similar characteristics. If you aren’t satisfied with how your story is developing, change courses and add new plots. No, you can’t rewrite what’s already been written, but you can change future chapters so that the ending is something that you would be proud to allow others to read. If you hadn’t done it already, start writing an intriguing, powerful story that represents your true self; and once the storyline is finished, make sure it’s one that inspires despite the challenges, mishaps or mistakes that occurred throughout the pages.

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Just Asking… (Do you realize that it takes more than time to heal old wounds?)

As a child growing up, I used to hear many adults say that time heals all wounds. That may be so when it comes to some physical ailments, but as I’ve matured, I’ve discovered that many people are still suffering from emotional wounds, wounds that were caused many years prior. They are still nursing the hurts from their childhoods, past relationships, or past mistakes. As the clock ticks, many times, the wounds aren’t healed; they are embedded deeper into those individuals’ psyches.

 

One may wonder what is necessary to start the healing process. Sometimes, a person has to forgive the offender in order to move forward. At other times, a person may need to ask someone to forgive him for something he did. On occasion, a person may need to make restitution to the offended person, or he may need to make amends if possible.

 

Sometimes righting a wrong will enhance the healing process quicker than anything else will. It may require one to swallow his pride in order to move in the right direction, but that one act, performed in the spirit of humility and earnestness could shave off years of offense.

 

Are you suffering from an old emotional wound? Is it disrupting the peace in your life? If it is, do something that can bring reconciliation to your situation. Don’t wait for time when the situation calls for action on your part.

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Just Asking… (Do you know that thinking things through can alleviate a world of pain?)

When I worked as a counselor, one of the greatest bits of advice I gave my clients was to think things through before they acted. Many of them suffered from lack of impulse control and would do things on the spur of the moment, many times making bad decisions that led to negative consequences. In order for them to think more logically, we would examine certain behaviors and look at possible outcomes instead of focusing only on the immediate gratification. After they examined the possible outcomes, then they decided whether the act was worth engaging in. This process stopped many clients from making rash decisions, decisions that could cost them significantly in the future.

 

As I think about some of the past mistakes of others (I don’t exclude myself from this list), I realize that if they had followed this principle in the decision-making process, they might have escaped some of the bumps and bruises in life. Sometimes in the heat of the moment, people react negatively, and as a result, say and do things that they can apologize for, but can never take back. In search for immediate gratification, people engage in behaviors that they think are harmless but those behaviors end up imprisoning them for many years to come. Instead of taking time to examine situations, some move too quickly, rushing into things that lead down dead-end roads.

 

Yes, there are some things beyond our control even if we examine every possible outcome imaginable. However, many a heartache could be avoided if a person thought things through before caving in to every whim or notion that came to his mind. That’s not to say that we’re not to strike while the iron is hot, it is only saying not to let unrestrained passion drive you down a road that leads to danger and destruction. Therefore, before engaging in that act, think it through, it could save you a lot of heartache if you do.

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Just Asking… (Are you taking yourself too seriously?)

I woke up thinking about the adage “all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” The day before I was consumed with thoughts about all of the things I had to do, and this saying made me think about the last time I let my hair down and had fun. I didn’t have to do anything elaborate, but I was determined to slow down and smell the roses today. I was determined to watch the birds fly and take the time to feel the wind blow. I was determined that I would admire the small wonders in life and thank God for giving me another day to enjoy my beautiful surroundings. I was determined to take the time to thank Him for the people He placed in my life (those I understood and those I didn’t). I was determined not to go too fast, just take it easy for a few hours and do some of the things I liked to do instead of some of the things I needed to do.

 

Once I took time to enjoy my surroundings, I started to have a deeper appreciation for life. I laughed at the silly things, sang some old childhood songs (even though they were off key), watched a funny movie, and spent time reflecting on my blessings. It made a world of difference. After a few hours of relaxing, let-your-hair down time, I was recharged. I was able to do more of what I needed to do with limited stress.

 

It was such a fulfilling experience, I want others to take a little time to get off track in order to play, sing, dance, watch the sunset, smell a flower, watch a funny movie, or do some other thing that takes the edge off. Shrug off the serious side for a little while and have childlike fun. Turn the water hose on in your yard and get wet. Race with your children and let them win. Sing something that will put a smile on your face. And don’t worry about perfection because you can’t improve on having harmless fun, the kind that brings a smile to your face.

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