Experts in the field of chemical dependency advise alcoholics and addicts to change people, places and things if they want to live productive lives. They stress to those seeking sobriety that they must rid themselves of things that defile, distract and destroy. They don’t suggest making gradual shifts; they suggest making drastic changes because their clients’ lives are in jeopardy. Those who are physically addicted may need substitutes to help make this process smoother, but on a whole, the old way of doing things will no longer work if they desire happy, gratifying lives.
It is the same when someone is trying to move away from negative situations and people. At times, making gradual changes is not an option. There are instances that call for radical life changes, tearing oneself away from the person or thing that destroys. It may be tempting to move away slowly, but this slow detachment may result in the person falling prey to the same temptation or struggle repeatedly.
Look at your current situation. Is there something that requires a drastic change? If there is, then you must muster the courage to do so. If you can’t do it alone, seek support from a trusted friend, spiritual leader or professional. Don’t play Russian roulette with your life. Get the help you need to make that “clean break,” and get it now. Tomorrow may be too late.