Just because you’ve failed, doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Just because you’ve messed up, doesn’t make you a mess up. Just because you’ve made a mistake, doesn’t make you a mistake.
I remember repeating these phrases often to some of my clients. Many of them made several mistakes in their lives, and because of those mistakes, they felt they could never live productive and healthy lives. Instead of seeing the possibilities that life held for them, they focused on the past, unable to release the negative images that plagued their minds. At first, I couldn’t understand why they couldn’t get on with their lives, but as I delved deeper, I realized that most of them listened to recordings of negative voices that had been with them for most of their lives. So instead of trying to put the new scripts on top of the old ones, we had to go back and rewrite the old scripts.
When the old scripts were rewritten, changes started to take place. These individuals realized they made mistakes, and they took responsibility for the mistakes they made. Once they did this, they forgave themselves, and in certain situations asked others to forgive them. After realizing they weren’t their mistakes, failures or disappointments, they were free to move on with new life scripts.
Isn’t it wonderful to know that you are not your mistakes and failures? Isn’t it grand to know that you can succeed in spite of your past? Isn’t it marvelous to know that you can be freed from your prison of guilt and shame?
If you’ve been captive to your past mistakes and failures, know that you have permission to be free. Rewrite those old scripts and develop new ones. Tell yourself that even though you made mistakes, those mistakes will no longer define you. If you can’t do it alone, get help. Just don’t allow the past to keep robbing from your present. You’re too valuable for that.