Time is a precious commodity. However, some people squander their time by trying to encourage others to like them. They pretend to be who they are not, buy things they can’t afford, say things they don’t mean, go places they aren’t interested in, and do things they don’t want to do in order to impress others. Unbelievably, they will even violate their values in order to be accepted.
Isn’t it interesting that people will make such huge investments in relationships that reward them with pain, confusion, sadness and the like? These people simply do not realize that not everyone on the planet will like them, even if they were perfect and flawless (which none of us are).
As you examine your relationships, do you find yourself guilty of this infraction? Are your relationships adding to your life, or are they causing you to spiral downward? Do you have to pretend to be someone you are not in order to be accepted? Are you violating your values in order to belong? When you leave your relationships, are you drained and disillusioned? Do you rationalize that being with someone who degrades you is better than being with no one at all?
If you find yourself in these energy drainers, you may want to make a change. As mentioned earlier, your time is valuable. And if those around you can’t appreciate you for who you are, maybe you need to find better ways to invest your time.