Many relationships would improve if people invested as much time in them as they do to social media.
And David said, Solomon my son is young and tender, and the house that is to be builded for the Lord must be exceeding magnificent, of fame and of glory throughout all countries: I will therefore now make preparation for it. So David prepared abundantly before his death. (Taken from I Chronicle of KJV of Bible.)
A grand individual leaves a deposit for the next generation. To live life and yet leave something for those coming behind is exactly what God intends for His people to do. It must be noted however that we can leave more than money and material possessions.
As scripture reveals, David wanted to build a house for the Lord, but God would not permit Him to do so. Instead of being filled with disappointment and frustration, David readily yielded to God’s perfect Will. God informed David that Solomon would be allowed to construct the temple. David hastily began to work towards gathering the materials that Solomon would need for the task. Scripture reports that David prepared abundantly before his death. Not only did David leave Solomon with the necessary materials, he blessed Solomon and gave him godly Instructions. This definitely denotes a man after God’s own Heart.
THOUGHT TO PONDER: Don’t be known as one who makes withdrawals only. Leave a deposit for the next generation.
Excerpt from Nuggets of Faith
Have you ever witnessed an individual who seems bent on doing wrong? Regardless of the support and encouragement he gets from those who care about him, he decides to do things his own way in his own time. Instead of listening to the voice of wisdom, he rejects it and chooses to follow the wrong crowd, listening to the wrong voices. He tells himself that he has a right to live his life as he pleases, and his choices affect no one but himself. He reasons that he is an adult, and no one can tell him what to do. He is correct on one level; he can choose to live his life as he pleases (however, consequences will follow his actions), but he is wrong on another level. Many times, his bad choices and actions cause pain and grief to those who love him.
Oftentimes, loved ones (especially parents) will enable that wayward individual, trying to shield him from negative consequences. They may give him money (supporting his bad habits), pay his bills, lie for him, etc. Instead of allowing him to learn from his repeated mistakes, they try to soften his blows by intervening when it is evident that the person has no intention to change.
One of the antidotes for a situation like this is to begin to allow the individual to experience the consequences of his actions. This may seem harsh, and it may be difficult to do, but if loved ones have tried other methods and they haven’t worked, maybe they should quit bailing the wayward individual out of trouble.
I’m not recommending that you give up on the wayward adult. I’m only suggesting that you stop being the middleman. Allow him to experience consequences for his actions. When life throws him enough negative blows, he may come to the place that he sincerely desires change. When this occurs, you can offer your support, but only in ways that will promote and not impede his progress.
As a child growing up, I used to hear many adults say that time heals all wounds. That may be so when it comes to some physical ailments, but as I’ve matured, I’ve discovered that many people are still suffering from emotional wounds, wounds that were caused many years prior. They are still nursing the hurts from their childhoods, past relationships, or past mistakes. As the clock ticks, many times, the wounds aren’t healed; they are embedded deeper into those individuals’ psyches.
One may wonder what is necessary to start the healing process. Sometimes, a person has to forgive the offender in order to move forward. At other times, a person may need to ask someone to forgive him for something he did. On occasion, a person may need to make restitution to the offended person, or he may need to make amends if possible.
Sometimes righting a wrong will enhance the healing process quicker than anything else will. It may require one to swallow his pride in order to move in the right direction, but that one act, performed in the spirit of humility and earnestness could shave off years of offense.
Are you suffering from an old emotional wound? Is it disrupting the peace in your life? If it is, do something that can bring reconciliation to your situation. Don’t wait for time when the situation calls for action on your part.
Children are a blessing. Some people believe this while others don’t, but regardless of one’s opinion, not everybody has the privilege to serve as a parent (biological or otherwise). The awesome thing about being a parent is that a person is making an impression on young minds. He is painting a picture of what the world is like. That person is doing so by his words and actions. Even when a parent isn’t aware that he is painting a picture for his children, that person is adding a stroke to the page of life each and every day.
As you examine the life you live before your children, what story are you telling? Are you teaching your children that honesty and integrity are important characteristics? Are you telling them that it is all right to violate valuable principles as long as they get what they want? Are you showing them that stepping on others is the way to success? Are you teaching them to be afraid to spread their wings and try new things? Are you ridiculing them and planting words within them that make them feel useless? Are you provoking them to anger by the way you live? Are you nurturing them and showing them they are valuable just as they are? Are you living a life that you want mimicked by your little ones?
As it’s been said numerous times, your actions speak louder than your words. When young, your children have the tendency to mimic what you do more than listening to what you say. The lifestyle you live may have an impact on them as long as they live.
Knowing this, be cautious of the picture you’re painting for your children. Yes, you have to live your life, but know that small ones are watching, and they will be affected by the story you paint. So paint a picture that you won’t be ashamed to pass on to the next generation, because you are passing a story on, whether you are aware of it or not.
It takes great tenacity to be a stay-at-home parent. It isn’t a glamorous job, and many times the person in this role doesn’t get many accolades. This person doesn’t check in at a specific time, take a lunch break then check out at a designated time. This person may not receive raises for a job well done. This person will not climb the corporate ladder and will not be sent to different trainings to perfect his or her skills. Many times, this person doesn’t have the comradery of co-workers, people to encourage him or her when times get hard. Sometimes the very people a stay-at-home parent serves takes his or her services for granted. In spite of these things, the stay-at-home parent gets up relentlessly and performs his or her tasks.
When you examine the skills of a stay-at-home parent, you will discover that they are multifarious. In some cases, the parent will serve as a decision maker. Oftentimes, decisions have to be made on the spot, and consultation is not available. This person will also serve as a manager who multitasks. He or she may not have the luxury of doing one thing at a time; the demands of his or her day require that two or more things be done at once. If this parent is fortunate, he or she can delegate some of his or her duties. This person also holds the role of a counselor. Even if he or she doesn’t possess a psychology degree, he or she is expected to know how to consult the subjects in the household on various life issues. He or she may also perform duties of a chef. This person may not be able to attach executive in front of this title, but he or she is responsible for preparing nutritious meals for the family. He or she is also expected to dabble in the role of a nursing assistant, finding cures or remedies for minor ailments. The list is endless when it comes to this role; however, the stay-at-home parent performs his or her duties tirelessly, oftentimes sprinkled with love.
If you know someone in this position, encourage him or her. Tell that person what a great job he or she is doing. Buy a small gift to show him or her appreciation. Celebrate that person for all that he or she has done. And remember, even if this person doesn’t receive accolades from the world, he or she is doing something awesome. This person has the responsibility of shaping young minds for the future. And who knows? One of those young minds may grow up to do something or be someone great.
We live in a unique time. We have the privilege of seeing society change right before our eyes. We experience things that some of our ancestors never thought of experiencing, and we can do things that some of yesteryear said were impossible to do.
Who ever thought we would be able to connect to people around the world with the click of a few keys? Who ever thought that numerous individuals would be walking around with cell phones, talking to others at will? Who ever thought that modern medicine would have advanced as it has? Moreover, who ever thought that computers would play such a dominant role in our world as they do?
It’s amazing to see different developments and discoveries transpire, and it’s amazing to watch each generation progress more rapidly than the one before. Yet in spite of such amazing advancement, there’s something that if not guarded carefully will rapidly regress. That precious asset is communication with our loved ones.
Isn’t it interesting that we can share things on social media and get excited when others post pictures about themselves and what they’ve done, but fail to ask our spouse how was his or her day? Isn’t it interesting that we can spend numerous hours on video games every week but fail to spend one hour per week finding out how those we say we love feel about things? Isn’t it interesting that we can research any topic on the internet, but many times fail to know what’s going on with our children? Isn’t it interesting that we keep up with the news, but fail to examine what’s going on in our homes? Isn’t it something when we can’t eat a meal together without watching television or using electronics?
Advancement is excellent and brings with it many benefits, but is it worth sacrificing relationships with your loved ones? Are you guilty of relating more to those in the blogosphere than those in your own home? If you are, decide whether it would benefit you and your loved ones to turn off “the things” in order to reconnect. If you do, you may discover some interesting data that’s living right under your nose.