Category Archives: Role Model

Just Asking… (Can you live the advice you give?)

I woke up this morning with a new resolve. I had been spending so much time at the computer working on projects, that I neglected other areas of my life. Instead of working on writing projects in moderation, I felt the need to get the “next thing” done right away. As a result, I felt off-balanced, stressed and frustrated. I must admit, somewhere in the recesses of my mind I knew this was not wise because I worked in a role of helping people take care of themselves; but because of my tunnel vision, I fell into an unhealthy trap.

 

This shortsightedness reminded me of an old adage, “Practice what you preach.” Sometimes it is easy for a person to give advice to others and neglect that same advice himself. Sometimes it is easy for a person to point out flaws in others when those same flaws are humungous in his own life. Sometimes a person overlooks his shortcomings and magnifies those of others.

 

There is nothing wrong with advising others (at times), but it would behoove us to take stock of our own lives to ensure that we are living what we are advising. Paul, a believer, said it so eloquently.

 

But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway. (Taken from the KJV of the Bible.)

 

So, refuse to be a castaway in life. Make sure the advice you are giving is the advice you are living.

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Just Asking… (Do you respect authority?)

For I also am a man set under authority… (Taken from Luke of KJV of the Bible.)

 

Submitting to authority is difficult for many in these days and times. People desire to do their own thing, in their own way, whenever they feel. They see authority as limiting, refraining personal freedom. When authority is understood and not abused, it becomes a tremendous blessing. It allows individuals to work towards a common goal, providing roles and boundaries for those involved.

 

The centurion was a man of military discipline. He understood how to take commands as well as give them. Additionally, he recognized and respected authority when he saw it. As a result, he went down in history as a man having “so great faith.”

 

THOUGHT TO PONDER: Authority is not a demeaning word. It provides great liberty when it is operated in properly.

Excerpt taken from Nuggets of Faith

Just Asking… (What picture are you painting for your children?)

Children are a blessing. Some people believe this while others don’t, but regardless of one’s opinion, not everybody has the privilege to serve as a parent (biological or otherwise). The awesome thing about being a parent is that a person is making an impression on young minds. He is painting a picture of what the world is like. That person is doing so by his words and actions. Even when a parent isn’t aware that he is painting a picture for his children, that person is adding a stroke to the page of life each and every day.

 

As you examine the life you live before your children, what story are you telling? Are you teaching your children that honesty and integrity are important characteristics? Are you telling them that it is all right to violate valuable principles as long as they get what they want? Are you showing them that stepping on others is the way to success? Are you teaching them to be afraid to spread their wings and try new things? Are you ridiculing them and planting words within them that make them feel useless? Are you provoking them to anger by the way you live? Are you nurturing them and showing them they are valuable just as they are? Are you living a life that you want mimicked by your little ones?

 

As it’s been said numerous times, your actions speak louder than your words. When young, your children have the tendency to mimic what you do more than listening to what you say. The lifestyle you live may have an impact on them as long as they live.

 

Knowing this, be cautious of the picture you’re painting for your children. Yes, you have to live your life, but know that small ones are watching, and they will be affected by the story you paint. So paint a picture that you won’t be ashamed to pass on to the next generation, because you are passing a story on, whether you are aware of it or not.

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Just Asking… (Do you realize you will become like the people you choose to follow?)

As a youngster, I played a game called “Simon Says.” In that game, the participants had to do whatever the leader did. If the leader jumped on one leg, the participants had to do the same. If the leader flapped his arms, the participants copied his actions. If the leader squatted, the participants squatted. To make the game more complicated, the leader sped up his commands, and at times, gave commands without saying “Simon Says.” If a participant performed a command and the leader neglected to say “Simon Says,” that participant was thrown out of the game. The winner of the game was the one who performed the most correct commands following the phrase “Simon Says;” thereby, mimicking the actions of the leader.

 

This seems cute as a youngster. However, do know you will begin to mimic the behaviors of those you choose to follow? Not only that, you will begin to sound like them. In other words, you will begin to speak words similar to their words; and in most cases, you will begin to think as they think. The more you listen to them and immerse yourself in their doctrines, the more you will start to believe what you’ve been exposed to. And once your beliefs change, your actions usually follow.

 

Ask yourself a few questions. Who are your mentors? Whose words have you ingested in abundance? To whom do you lend your ears? Who speaks into your life? They may not do it personally, but you may absorb their words through television, radio, books, CDs, the internet, etc. You may listen to them daily, or you may listen to them several times per week. You may listen to them as you’re doing housework, or you may attend a conference to hear what they have to say. Regardless, you’ve made their words and actions a part of your repertoire, and you’ve made a decision, on some level, to follow them.

 

Before deciding to follow someone, take the time to examine where he’s going. If you don’t like what you see, you may not want to get in line with his beliefs or doctrine. Don’t be like those who lacked wisdom. They were the ones where the blind (those without wisdom) led the blind. As a result, they both fell into a ditch. That being said, make sure you choose your mentors carefully. You may want to make sure they have a sense of direction before you jump on board.

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Just Asking… (What legacy are you leaving behind?)

Your life speaks volumes, and whether you realize it or not, someone is observing you, maybe even emulating some of the things you do. Knowing this, how would you sum up your life? Are you proud of the way you’ve lived so far? Is your life saying exactly what you want it to say? Are you touching the lives of others in positive ways just by performing your daily routine?

 

Oftentimes, you can motivate people to change without even trying. They may watch how you handle difficult situations, and because of your endurance, they may be encouraged to move forward with the same persistence. They may watch you rise to a level of success, and because of your example, something within them rises up with the same fervor and propels them to higher heights. They may observe the way you handle your relationships and as a result, make commitments to react to others in the same manner. They may see your integrity and because they see it lived out in the flesh, they may attempt to move beyond their moral shortcomings. They may know about your mistakes, but they watch you accept responsibility for your actions and move beyond your mistakes to become a better person. This in turn lets them know they can overcome their mistakes too.

 

Each person has a sphere of influence. It may be at home, at school, in a neighborhood, on the job, in an organization, in a relationship, etc. In that sphere, he is leaving a legacy, something that he will pass on to another. Others will look at a person’s legacy and praise him for what he’s done, or they will use his legacy as something to avoid. Regardless, a legacy is being left, with or without that person’s consent.

 

Think about the script you are writing by living your life. This is one story where you are the author, and each day adds a new page. You get to decide the legacy you want to leave. Will it be one of motivation or devastation? The choice is yours.

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