A kind word is like medicine. It can heal ailing places.
Want to pass on something contagious? Smile.
If You Chase Riches, You’ll Forfeit Many Good Things In Your Life; But If You Live Your Life To The Fullest, True Riches Will Chase You.
Have you ever met a person who thinks he can be everything to everybody? This person is known as a “people-pleaser” because he will do almost anything to avoid hurting the feelings of others. He may have a million and one things on his “to-do list,” yet when someone asks him to do just one more thing, he readily accepts. He may be seething on the inside, angry because he has one more thing to do, but you would never know it by looking at him, because he accepts the request without resistance.
If you take a closer look at this individual, you may notice headaches, stomachaches, backaches, depression, chest pains, inability to sleep, etc. He carries the loads of others, trying to protect their feelings while forfeiting his own comfort and peace of mind.
In instances like these, a two-letter word can go a long way. Saying “no” to the requests of others may be the very medicine that’s needed. It may be uncomfortable at first, and others may even get angry, but it will be worth it if it lightens the overwhelmed person’s load.
If you find yourself stressed because you take on too much, try this one-word, two-letter cure. The wonder-working effects may surprise you.
I woke up thinking about the adage “all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” The day before I was consumed with thoughts about all of the things I had to do, and this saying made me think about the last time I let my hair down and had fun. I didn’t have to do anything elaborate, but I was determined to slow down and smell the roses today. I was determined to watch the birds fly and take the time to feel the wind blow. I was determined that I would admire the small wonders in life and thank God for giving me another day to enjoy my beautiful surroundings. I was determined to take the time to thank Him for the people He placed in my life (those I understood and those I didn’t). I was determined not to go too fast, just take it easy for a few hours and do some of the things I liked to do instead of some of the things I needed to do.
Once I took time to enjoy my surroundings, I started to have a deeper appreciation for life. I laughed at the silly things, sang some old childhood songs (even though they were off key), watched a funny movie, and spent time reflecting on my blessings. It made a world of difference. After a few hours of relaxing, let-your-hair down time, I was recharged. I was able to do more of what I needed to do with limited stress.
It was such a fulfilling experience, I want others to take a little time to get off track in order to play, sing, dance, watch the sunset, smell a flower, watch a funny movie, or do some other thing that takes the edge off. Shrug off the serious side for a little while and have childlike fun. Turn the water hose on in your yard and get wet. Race with your children and let them win. Sing something that will put a smile on your face. And don’t worry about perfection because you can’t improve on having harmless fun, the kind that brings a smile to your face.
Almost everyone wants to be happy; yet, if you ask many people about their emotional states, you will find that they are unhappy, unfulfilled and miserable. If you ask them why they feel the way they do, some blame their discontentment on their jobs. They claim if they get better positions that their lives would drastically improve. Some state that they are trapped in miserable marriages. They feel if they change partners that they will be satisfied. Some say they hate singleness. They believe with all of their hearts if they find the right mates, happiness will be their norm. Some complain that they never had a fair chance in life. They believe if different parents would have raised them that they would have a better chance at happiness. Some even state that they don’t know what would make them happy; they just roam around in life hoping that something or someone would lift their spirits.
It is amazing to watch people waste precious moments waiting for the “what ifs” to happen before they become happy. They refuse to enjoy the present moment, the only one they can experience at a time, and they wait for something that may or may not happen before they decide to change their emotional states. They refuse to look for something in the present that they can be grateful for. They fail to recognize the natural beauty that they are exposed to. They neglect to bask in the fact that they are healthy and can do for themselves. They overlook the family and friends that they are blessed with. They despise their personal blessings, looking for greener pastures.
If they change their perspectives about their situations, they may find that pockets of happiness lurk in every corner. They may begin to see that the rising of the sun brings a reason to smile. They may find that the counting of stars brings peace. They may realize that the mates they despise have good qualities waiting to be appreciated. They may find that there are benefits on those current jobs that they have ignored. They may find that in their singleness, they have opportunities that they would not otherwise enjoy. They may come to realize that their parents did the best they could with what they had, and if their parents didn’t, they would do better than their parents did.
If a person changes his perspective about his situation, he can change his mood. He doesn’t have to wait for his situation to change in order to be happy. He can allow his happiness to change his situation, and if his happiness is not powerful enough to change his situation, it is powerful enough to change him. And amazingly, once he is changed, he’ll take the necessary steps to change whatever is not working in his life.
Many people are looking for love. When you ask them what they are looking for, they say they are looking for the total package. When they are questioned further about their desires, they roll off a litany of qualities that they say are “must haves.” Amazingly, they are looking for the perfect person, someone without shortcomings, weaknesses or failures. When you peruse their standards, they are so high that no human being could possibly live up to them.
Many individuals have found someone they are compatible with, but because that person had a shortcoming, that person scratched the “less than perfect one” off the list. There is nothing wrong with high standards, but a person must realize that no one living on this earth is perfect. Each person has an issue, shortcoming or frailty; some have more than others, and some have them to a larger degree than others.
A person can save himself a lot of frustration by realizing that each person comes with some kind of baggage. Once that is established, he can look for someone who possesses the majority of the qualities he desires. Once he finds a shortcoming, which he will find if he looks long enough, he must decide whether that shortcoming is a deal breaker. For example, if a person is addicted to drugs, that may be a deal breaker. If he won’t keep a job, that may be a deal breaker. If he is abusive, that may be a deal breaker. However, if that person is prone to lateness, that may be something a person can work with. If the potential mate has a tendency to worry, the person has to decide if that’s something he can deal with in a relationship. Either way, a person must evaluate whether the other individual’s weakness is something that he can accept even if he doesn’t agree with it.
Most happily married couples admit that their partners have weaknesses, and if they are honest, they admit that they have them too. So for those looking for the perfect person, know that that person may not be “perfect,” but he or she can be perfect for you. Don’t be one of those people who overlooked a good thing because that good thing came adorned with a few flaws.